The 24hr Reset
From dreading the door to knowing exactly what to do.
Your child just walked in. Something's wrong. You can feel it. And you have no idea what to do next.
The 24hr Reset gives you a step-by-step framework for the first hour, the first day, and everything in between — so you stop freezing and start landing them softly, every single time.
How to help your child come home when home feels like a different world to where they've just been.
You have been waiting for them all weekend.
And the moment they walk through the door, something shifts.
Their face. Their energy. The way they drop their bag.
And you think: here we go.
You want to reach for them. To hug them, ask how it was, tell them you missed them.
But something stops you.
Because last time you did that, it made it worse.
So instead you hover. Or you go quiet. Or you try to act normal when nothing feels normal.
Because you don't know what to do. And you are terrified of getting it wrong.
But here is what nobody tells you...
Your child is not being difficult.
Their nervous system is still in the other home.
They haven't landed yet.
And everything you instinctively want to do in that first moment — the hug, the questions, the excited hello — lands on a body that is still bracing.
So they pull away. Or they explode. Or they cling. Or they go completely blank.
And you are left standing there wondering what you did wrong.
You didn't do anything wrong.
You just didn't have a plan.
And here's what I really need you to understand.
Doing nothing is not a neutral response.
It feels like it is. Staying quiet feels safe. Not pushing feels kind.
But your child's nervous system is still in the red. Still scanning. Still waiting to feel safe enough to come back.
Every minute you spend not knowing what to do is a minute they spend not landing.
The framework exists. The research is clear. The tools work.
You just haven't had them yet.
I know this because I lived it.
I remember standing at my own door — so excited to see them, so relieved they were back — and within minutes everything had fallen apart.
The meltdowns. The demands. The testing. The way Orla would arrive and within seconds be throwing her bag on the floor.
I tried everything. I asked questions. I said the wrong things. I made them feel responsible for how much I missed them.
There was one moment when Albie looked up at me and said:
"Did you miss me, Mummy?"
And I said: "I missed you so much, darling."
And he said: "I don't have to go. I can stay here with you."
He was four.
And in that moment I realised, without meaning to, I had made my child feel responsible for my happiness. On top of everything else he was already carrying.
That was the moment everything changed.
I stopped performing the reunion. I learned to lower the alarm first. To anchor the body before I tried to connect. To name what was happening without shame. And to draw them back — slowly, consistently, with warmth and no agenda.
Within a week of changing things — I noticed something different. Within six weeks — genuinely different children coming through the door.
That is what The 24hr Reset teaches you.
This isn't about saying the perfect thing!
I am not a therapist. I am a parent — just like you.
Everything I teach comes from navigating this with my own children, from years of research, and from the degree in childhood and psychology that gave me the framework to understand what I was already living.
This is one parent talking to another.
This is the course I wish I had before the door opened that
This is the course I wish I had before the door opened that Monday and I had no idea what to do.
Inside The 24hr Reset you’ll learn how to...
LOWER
...the alarm in the first hour so your child's nervous system starts to settle before you've spoken
DRAW
...them back to themselves, to you, and to the safety of this home.
ANCHOR
...their body with simple, research-backed tools that work — even on the hardest days.
RESPOND
...in the moment instead of freezing, reacting, or replaying it for days.
NAME
...what they're feeling without interrogating, blaming, or making it worse.
BUILD
...a routine so consistent that your child starts to feel the landing before they've even arrived.
What's Inside?
8 modules. Around 90 minutes. Watch it all in one go or one module at a time, lifetime access, no deadline.
Module 1- Welcome. Why your child saves their biggest feelings for you — and why that is evidence of your parenting, not a failure of it. What is actually happening in their body when they come home.
Module 2- L: Lower the Alarm. The first hour. What not to do — and why your instincts, though loving, work against you here. Your Soft Landing plan, your warm welcome toolkit, and the Return Anchor that changes everything.
Module 3- A: Anchor the Body. Hours one to four. Why you cannot talk a child out of a dysregulated state — and what actually works instead. Ashling's three exercises, the Body Reset Menu, the regulation basket, and why blue tac might be the best £1 you ever spend.
Module 4- N: Name Without Shame. Hours four to eight. The second wave — and why it is not a setback. The three-part naming formula. Scripts for the moments that catch you off guard.
Module 5- D: Draw Them Back. Hours eight to twenty-four. Routine as medicine. Identity anchoring. Repair after the hard moments. What the good days look like — and how to protect them.
Module 6- Having the Hard Conversations. What your child is really asking underneath the question they asked. Scripts for when they raise it and when you need to. The four things every child needs to hear every time.
Module 7- Taking Care of the Safe Parent. You are also being triggered. The grief of the small window. The loneliness. The fear. Your pre and post-transition toolkit — and the permissions you have been waiting for someone to give you.
Module 8- Putting It All Together. The full LAND arc in one picture. Signs of progress. What to come back to on the hard days.
Also included...
A full workbook- one section per module with reflection prompts, scripts to personalise, and space to plan. Practical and restorative, never overwhelming.
The Transition Tracker- a digital tool to log how your child arrives home, track patterns over time, and build a dated record if you ever need it.
The Observation Checklist — tick-box format, organised by body signs, emotional signs, sleep signs, and positive progress. See the picture clearly.
Why Your Child Reacts the Way They Do — free training included. The science behind the behaviour, in plain language.
The Safe Parent Self-Care Menu — your regulation toolkit. Organised by how you are feeling, not what your child needs. For the moments before the door opens and after they settle.
Lifetime access so you can revisit whenever you need to.
This is for you if...
Your child comes home from the other parent and within minutes everything falls apart — and you don't know what to do in that moment.
You are the only regulated adult in your child's life and the weight of that is real.
You have tried being warm, being strict, asking questions, giving space — and nothing is working.
You dread Monday mornings more than anything else in your week.
You watch your child struggle and feel completely helpless to stop it.
You are following a court order and doing your best within it — and you just want to make this easier for them.
You want to stop managing the fallout and start actually landing them softly.
You want your child to come through the door and feel — even slightly — more okay than they did before.
This works whether your child is 2 or 17
The delivery shifts with your child.The LAND framework adapts.
Toddlers need physical containment, warmth, and no words at all — we cover that.
School-age children need side-by-side presence and a low-demand environment — we cover that.
Tweens and teens need space, proximity without pressure, and the car — we cover that too.
The four phases stay the same. What they look like shifts with your child.
Let’s talk what hold parents back...
Before the course: "I don't know what to do when they come through the door so I just react — and then spend days recovering from it."
Your child is landing alone every single time.
During the course: You will understand what is happening in your child's body and brain. You will have a framework, a plan, and the exact words to use.
You will stop guessing.
After the course: I know what to do. I stay calm. They settle faster. And we actually get to enjoy our time together."
Your child is landing in your arms instead of on the floor.
But what if I try this and it doesn't work for my child?
Every child is different — and this course knows that. The LAND framework is not a rigid script. It is a set of phases, tools, and principles that you adapt to your child.
The Body Reset Menu alone has enough options to find what works specifically for them. Most parents notice something shifting within a week.
The bigger transformation comes at around six weeks of consistency. Give it time. It works.
"I'm already so burnt out. I don't have capacity for another thing."
I hear this. And I want to be honest with you.
The mental load you are currently carrying — dreading transitions, managing the fallout, trying to figure out what to do every single time — is costing you more than this course will.
This is not a complete overhaul. It is small changes, added one at a time. Start with just L. Just the door moment. That is one thing. And it starts working immediately.
"My child seems fine when they come home."
Children who grow up moving between unpredictable environments become very good at one thing. Seeming fine.
Fine on the outside is not the same as fine on the inside. The hypervigilance, the held feelings, the body that is still bracing — these do not always look like not fine. They look like quiet. Like manageable. Like fine.
The best time to build a soft landing is before they desperately need one. Because when they desperately need it — it needs to already be there.
"I feel guilty that I can't protect them from this."
You cannot control what happens in the other home. You know that. And the helplessness of that is real — I am not going to minimise it.
But you have enormous power over what happens in yours.
Every soft landing. Every silent hug. Every body reset routine. Every movie night. Every time you stay calm when you could have reacted.
That is not nothing. That is not helpless. That is the most important parenting you will ever do.
And it is entirely, completely yours.
In six months, this could look like this.
Your child comes through the door on Monday.
You open your arms — and you say nothing.
And they stay in that hug for longer than you expected.
Later that evening, you do your three exercises together. The butterfly tap. The warm hands. The quiet breathing. And by bedtime, they are settled.
Not perfectly. Not every time. But faster.
By Wednesday — genuinely back. Laughing at your thing. Looking forward to movie night. Present.
You stop spending Thursday recovering and start spending it enjoying.
You stop dreading Monday.
Because you know what to do.
And your child — without either of you quite knowing when it happened — starts to feel the landing before they've even arrived.
So, here's everything you get...
The 24hr Reset — the full course (8 modules, ~90 minutes, lifetime access)
Module workbook — every section written, practical, restorative
The Transition Tracker — digital, dated, pattern-tracking
The Observation Checklist — behaviour and body signs, tick-box format
Why Your Child Reacts the Way They Do — free training
The Safe Parent Self-Care Menu — your regulation toolkit
Launch price $37 USE CODE LAUNCH37
First 36 hours only $18.50
Questions People Ask Before Buying
How long is the course? Around 90 minutes across 8 modules. Watch it all in one go or one module at a time. There is no deadline — you have lifetime access.
Is this suitable if my child is still having contact with the other parent? Yes. This course was built specifically for that situation. Your child is crossing between two very different environments — this gives you the tools to make coming back to yours as soft as possible every single time.
What if contact has already stopped? This still applies. The impact of an unpredictable or unsafe environment does not stop the moment contact does. Your child is still processing, still settling, still carrying things. This course helps with all of it.
What age is this for? The LAND framework works across all ages. The course includes age-specific guidance for toddlers through to teenagers — including what each phase looks like for each age group and how to adapt your approach.
What if I've already been doing this wrong? You haven't been doing it wrong. You have been doing your best without the right framework. Nothing that happened before you found this is irreversible. The work starts from here.
I'm exhausted. I don't know if I have capacity for this right now. That is exactly why this course is structured the way it is. One thing, one phase at a time. Start with the door moment. Just that. And watch what happens.
Do I need the other resources too? Everything in the core course stands completely on its own. The Body Reset Menu order bump, the Send-Off Toolkit, Say It Right, and the other resources are there when you are ready for the next layer. You do not need them to get enormous value from this course.
If you're reading this and thinking...
"I know I need to do something"
This is where you start.
You do not need to get this perfect. You just need to get the door moment right.
Your child is coming home. Again. And this time — you are going to be ready.
That already changes everything.
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